Most Sundays I participate in a Recovery service. We read a passage together from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.
It's on acceptance and every time I read it, some part of it speaks to me. You can personalize the reading below by substituting the word "alcoholism" for whatever life issue you are contending with.
And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation—some fact of my life —unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake.
Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.
The best thing I can do is accept life on its terms. That doesn't mean I like it, but it does mean that I'm participating willingly in life and allowing God to work all things for my good.
Surrender is a powerful thing. It will transform our lives--if we let it.